Power to Tolerance
The power to tolerate is the ability to respond to external and internal triggers in a positive way, yet not be affected by them. Tolerance is not a sign of weakness, but it is a sign of strength which grows over time and through life experiences.
We all face adversities in life, but how we respond to that situation can help design our life better (just like : A diamond is just a piece of coal that did well under pressure but never forget they are not formed overnight)
We come across diverse beings….some glare….some stare…some make faces…some poke fun….some laugh it out loud….some just keep watching…..some add comedy…some build anger within….some hold malice….some plan strategies…some forgive and forget…..some hold grudges…some retaliate bluntly…..some react badly….some always express opinion in every matter….some with never ending baggage of tantrums….some talk behind your back…..some always showing off….well, the list goes on!
I am sure YOU too have come across all or most of them…
Btw, which of the above is U ?
Power of tolerating everything. This is one of the most special and useful powers of our very soul and using this power, we can live a better life free from conflicts.
Every situation has a brighter side…are we looking at it…at work when we work in teams…u get ideas from one and all…do u allow and encourage this or do you do it your way or the highway or you shun them down….people working with fear will never be dear….people working with their skills will always be part of your accomplishment and thrills.
To tolerate means, to remain in peace with any situation we face. There is a positive way to think about it. Always look for the sunny side up….look at the brighter side…the brighter picture…if u utter them slowly….u will see the difference yourself.
Tolerate doesn’t mean just not to speak. It means, to respond in the right manner such that we should not give any pain or hurt to the other person.
Tolerance is not directly proportional to staying silent only and bearing it all, it also implies that I’m in total control of my emotions right now and I’m staying on this state of mind so that I don’t hurt myself and the other person.
You know best….your conscious just spoke to you right now…didn’t it?
Sometimes remaining quiet helps too….Isn’t it? (We might have heard this as a child : a person who maintains silence has no enemy)
As they say, Speech is Silver….Silence is Golden.
Retrospect over a few situations:
Situation 1: What do you do if someone is rude or disrespectful?
- Politely excuse yourself and walk away?
Or
b) Give back ?
Which one is U ?
Situation 2: What do you do if someone talks negative behind your back ?
a) Confront for a positive outcome ?
Or
b) Frown at that someone ?
Which one is U ?
Situation 3: Should you tolerate if people treat you poorly?
a) Keep tolerating ?
or
b) Set boundaries ?
Which one is U ?
Politely excusing yourself and walking away is a powerful statement. It sends clear message to the other person, what they have said or done is unacceptable and that you won’t tolerate it.
It does not matter if it’s a friend, a family member, or a life partner. It does not matter how long you have known them for or how nice they may have been to you in past, you are allowed to call people out on their abusing behaviour. You are allowed to set boundaries about what you are and are not willing to tolerate. If you tolerate disrespect, you will continue to be disrespected. Set your standards high, and stop tolerating negativity. Let the universe come and meet you there !
It is generally seen that a history of trauma or life experiences teach one to be tolerant, but just because you can take it doesn’t mean you have to always. However, how we respond to situations can help design our life better.
How do you practice tolerance then ?
Well, all are interconnected….Reduce your Mental Burden, Recover from Burnout, Practice Compassion, Mindfulness (understanding how you feel), Reduce Stress (Learning not everything is Easy or Black and White) and Stop anxiety (knowing that sometimes triggers also could be unreal because they are just your mere imaginations).
How?
Here are some tips for selfcare / self-soothe therapy (in addition to: diaphragm breathing, regular walk, positive self-talks) :
